There is nothing wrong with you
This time of year it’s trendy to pick one or two areas of your life where you’re not perfect, and try to fix them.
“I’m going to go to the gym three times a week and I’ll lose 20 pounds” or “I’m going to stop doubting myself and be more confident.”
There’s nothing wrong with trying to improve yourself. In fact, working to be the best version of you that you’re capable of being is an important part of sustained happiness.
The problem comes when you go too far down the rabbit hole.
If you spend too much time with things from the self-help industry (books, coaches, programs, seminars, workouts, etc.), you’ll start to feel as though there is something wrong with you and that you need to be fixed.
Many of us convince ourselves that we are broken simply by focusing too much on our negative traits and not enough on our positive traits.
Don’t fall for the trap of believing you need to change certain aspects of yourself or that you need to be fixed. All of us are “flawed” in one way or another – it’s part of the human condition, but there is no truth or value in believing that there is something wrong with you.
The point is to learn to love yourself and accept your imperfections.
After that, work on leaving your comfort zone. After that, work on helping others love themselves and accept their own imperfections.
And as you work on trying to improve certain areas of your life, just realize one thing: there is nothing wrong with you.
You don’t need to be fixed.